I like her, but she is one of my best friends
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have known this individual for over 19 years now, but only in the last 3 or so have we really started hanging out. We have become very good friends and enjoy talking with each other and having a good time with each other.
Within the last few months, I have started to see her as more than just a friend. In addition to this, within the last 2 months or so, she has started to open up to me more in some ways, is willing to try new things if I am there, and there is more physical touch being initiated by her (touching me on the arm, playful fighting, things of this nature). I am trying to determine if she is as interested in me as I am in her.
A year or so ago, I signed up for a personals web site for the personality test (very bored that night) and to see what kind of women were in the area as I had just moved here. Well this week, I saw her profile up and according to what she is looking for I fit every thing that she put up on the site. When I saw this, I got kind of worried that she might have waited and decided that she gave up.
While I am normally a very blunt person when it comes to these types of things, I find myself at a loss as to what to do. I am not very experienced in these kinds of things as I am normally a shy guy (except around people like her) and haven't dated much in the last few years. I guess I am just looking for a way to determine whether or not she feels the same way without making her feel uncomfortable or the possibility of losing a friend because she doesn't feel right around me anymore. I am ready to take it to the next level, but is she?
It sounds like she is ready for the next step also.
Try this, it is non-threatening to her and you will get your answer.
Tell her that you are "starting to develop feelings" for her. Wait and see what she says, but if she's not ready to say then tell her you will ask again soon. And soon means next day. Don't wait on it whatever you do. She will have her answer ready.
Make sure she knows that if she says no that you want your friendship to continue.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com