I feel attached to him but he does not feel the same.
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Okay I've been dating this guy for over a month. I've tried to move slow and he assured me I've done a good job and I agree with that, but now I am starting to regret it. We have not gone all the way and thankfully we have not yet. He is not good at being straight forward. I don't know if he is shy or what but he never just asked plainly if I would be his girlfriend. He had given me the idea that I was by his behavior. He soon figured out that I thought we were boyfriend and girlfriend and told me that we were only dating. That was okay with me. I thought it was weird he wasnt straight from the beginning but I went with it until he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. He soon got a little bit busy with college and his job and said he didn't want to be in a serious relationship but still wanted to be with me. I asked him if he meant that we would still be going out just not supier serious and he said yes. I was okay with that for a while and I went along with it and nothing changed. We still liked fooling around and stuff. But now he says things like... He hasn't found anything yet to make me a serious girlfriend. All my friends say he sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. I asked him how serious he was about me and he said we were friends with benefits. I got so mad about him saying that and then he told me that it was the wrong way to put it. He said we were more than friends but not really boyfriend and girlfriend. I told him that I would never have done all I did with him if I had known he wasn't that serious. He says he still doesn't want to give up such a pretty girl but I really like him and I need help figuring out how to get closer to him... I am thinking about not fooling around so much but I don't know what the right thing is to do and I do have a communication problem.. Any advice?
It sounds like he has exactly what he wants... a pretty friend with benefits.
No matter how he slices it that what it boils down to.
Your idea about cutting back on the fooling around is a good one.
You will get a better idea what's going on in his head.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com