I want my ex gf back
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
So two years ago I met a really great girl and we started dating. It was a whirle wind romance. Moved intogether after a month and got engaged 4 months later. Well shortly after getting engaged we started having problems because I lost my job. So i started lying to cover up my faults and that I was weak. So we started fighting all the time. We stuck it out and tried to work through this problem. Well a year ago she asked me to move out. So I did, but we still continued to see each other and date. Well after we seperated I found out that she had started using drugs. I told her that I didnt want to deal with that in my life. So I met a different girl we started dating and it was ok but I still continued to think about my ex all the time. We would see each other at least 3 or 4 times a week. It caused a lot of problems. So me and the new gf broke up and I was really hurt and confused so I didnt want to be around anyone. I basicly shut down on the world. The old gf tried to be there for me and I didnt care I pushed her away. Well she ended up meeting this other guy which she married two weeks after meeting and we lost contact. This was in sept, the other day she calls me and tells me she is not happy and wants out. I talk to her and tell her that she needs to do what her heart tells her to do. Since then we have started talking again and it is really nice. But I am not sure what to do she is affraid that we are going to start fighting like we use to and she tells me she loves me and cares alot about me. I feel the same way about her. There has not been a min over the past few months that I have not thought about her. I really want to work things out I am just not sure how to show her that I have changed. I found out during our seperation that I am Bi-polor and they have put me on my meds and they are really helping. I havent had an episode in over 3 months now. Please help with any advice because I don't want to lose this girl again she means the world to me. It just sucks that it took me this long to figure it out again.
Well I'm sure you don't want to break up a marriage.
So you will have to wait until she is separated before thinking of dating her. Meanwhile you can talk with her and be her friend. You can be honest about how you feel for her but don't push her or tempt her into having a divorce. She has to be the one to choose that.
You might also ask yourself if you want to become involved with a woman who gets married then gets tired of it so quickly. She sounds emotionally immature and would not make your life pleasant.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com