I am in need of some help...
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I am madly in love with a girl at my school, and in case you try to tell me that that is probably not the case, please keep it in mind that I will not take that advice.
The problem: I took a year to get to know her and I wound up with her phone number. We talked on the phone around 12-13 times, when her phone was suddenly disconnected. Around a month after summer break, I asked her out, and now she seems to be avoiding me. This causes me more mental pain than, I am certain, will be able to endure much longer.
I love her more every day, and can't get her out of my mind. Every time I try to talk to her, I choke upon my own words. I've got a councilor working with me on this problem, however, I am a bit impatient with that. I really want to talk to her, but this is getting in my way. Another problem is that I need to know if there's any possible way to show the full extent of my love for her, which extends beyond anything physical I can think of.
I really need some advice on how to change my position, get myself to talk to her, and how to not cause her to back even farther away. If I can't fix the problem, I'll never be able to forgive myself for allowing it to happen in the first place.
I believe you are madly in love with her.
It is good you are seeing a counsellor to help you with your problems. My first bit of advice is to pay very, very, close attention to what your counselor says and the questions asked. These people are highly trained in these matters... much more so than I am.
One thing you don't want to do is to overload her with your extraordinary feelings of love for her. Few people can accept such a confession. Take it slow with her and gradually gain her confidence. Try starting from scratch. Do this by greeting her in the hallway by looking her in the eyes, saying in a strong voice "Hi" plus her name, and then giving her a big smile. Don't worry if she ignores you the first few times since she is unsure about what you are doing. But, soon she will say hi and smile back.
Get her new phone number if you can and see if you can talk to her on the phone...usually this is easier than in person.
But, bottom line, pay attention to your counsellor who will give you the best advice.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com