Does she like me? I cant wait forever...or can i?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Heya im having a difficult situation im bearing right now and am not too sure on how to handle it, or what to do. I have known this girl all my life, I have known her since the day we went to school together in 1st grade. Back then we never really talked much. Around 8th grade I noticed I had feelings for this girl, and wanted it to be something special. We did go out for a little bit, but as graduation from middle school came, she broke up with me. I did not talk to her for 3 years, but I always wondered why she broke up with me, what I did wrong. About a month ago we got in contact and have been talking a lot online, and once all night on the phone. I still have feelings for her, but I dont know if she really even likes me. She knows I like her, and she gives me the response "you never know about the future" This makes me feel like a rebound. She does consider me one of her good friends that are boys, and out of the 6 people in her profile that she considers her best friends, i am listed there. She tells me she loves me, but it doesnt seem like its the kind of love I want her to love me for. To me, she says the words I love you a little more often than she should. She says it to all her good friends, which isnt a problem, but im looking for that special "i love you" We never really had our bad times, and we had a special kiss way back in 8th grade. Now that we are older and more grown up, I want to get to know this girl again and possibly have something special happen. Well, a few days after I told her I liked her, she told me she liked someone else. I felt hurt, but was still friends. Few days later, she finds out that the boy she likes, doesnt like her back. This makes me feel like she is in the same position I am in. Supposedly she doesn't like that boy anymore. ANYWAYS bottom line, I think i really do love this girl, and I have told her. We talk a lot online, and have known eachother for a while. I feel like im waiting forever for that "you never know in the future" and its just almost as if im getting my feelings worked up for nothing. I havent spent much time with her in real life any time recently, but as I said we always talk online. I just dont know if she is putting me on hold, or if she doesnt know what she wants or what. I would like some advice on what to do here please.
-- We are both 16 years old and juniors in highschool. She is very social with people she is close too, but can be shy.
She is putting you on hold as a friend.
If you want more than that, you need to tell her that if she can't be your special friend that you will be looking for someone else. You have to be convinced of this before you say it.
Why waste your precious young years on hold? You should be out there having fun with others rather than chatting online with someone who doesn't feel the same as you. Or if she does, she isn't showing it.
Make a move and see what happens. At least it will get you onto a new track.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com