Rebuilding Damaged Trust
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My girlfriend just broke up with me 4 days ago, because I lied to her about a few things, now she is very hurt and says that she can't trust me anymore, we got engaged and were getting married in march.
My question is how can I talk to her to give me another chance and to get her to trust me again. She tells me that she hates me, but still calls me back and answers my e-mail, what can I do to get her back. I've tried talking to her and been telling her how sorry I am and how much I still love her.
Lying to someone is about the most harmful thing you can possibly do to them. Relationships are founded on trust. If you cannot trust someone to even keep the small things honest with you, how can you trust them about serious issues and life-long commitments? That undermines the entire foundation of any relationship.
I have some pointers here -
You simply must keep up your efforts, and show her in as many ways possible that you truly realize now how wrong you were. You made a serious mistake, and she needs to believe you are fully aware of this. Since the mistake was ABOUT her ability to believe in you, it will take a while before she is willing to listen.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com