he cheated - i cheated. ?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, my name is kate and i am 17 years old.
my boyfriend and i have been together since we were 13. i love him so much and he also loves me so much! i know people say you can't fall in love at such a young age but we are in love and i think i will always be in love with him. over the past few months we have been arguing a little bit more than usual but we still get over it very quickly and appologize and tell each other we love each other. three weeks ago my boyfriend cheated on me and had sex with a complete random! i was devistated. and still am. i just can't get over it. we are back to normal now and he appologized a thousand times and i guess .. i forgave him? but the thing is deep down i cant. everytime i see him i think about it. and everytime i talk to him about sex or something that other girl comes straight to my mind. its awful. i just can't get over it. i think its time that him and i move on. when he told me he cheated on me i was so furious and i told him i never ever wanted to speak to him again or see him.. we didnt talk for a few days but then we started talking just as friends. and now we are pretty much back to normal, but as i said deep down i can't forgive or forget it. i don't know what to do. i love this boy soo much and i know he was so sorry and that he made one stupid mistake. i want to be able to forgive him and move on but i just can't!!! i have tried so hard.
i want to move on from him, but i know that we will always love each other.
If you can't forgive him then don't try.
He did a very stupid and bad thing and no matter how much he apologizes he still did it.
If you truly love him you might be able to forgive him but that doesn't seem to be the case here.
Continue to try to forgive him but if you can't then don't kick yourself about it.
Good luck! George
p.s. you didn't mention in your message how you cheated. Did you?
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com