still in love with my ex
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi, I submitted a question last week I believe but I think it may be too long and that's why it hasn't been answered. I just wanted some advice quickly because I'm not sure if the path I am taking is right.
My ex and I dated for 3 years and were madly in love, then he ended it over complicated issues. After that with the exception of a few months, we still remained close and intimate. Eight months later he came back to me, and we saw eachother for 7 more months. I then ended it this past July because I was still mad about the year before. Since then we have still remained close and intimate. Now though, he has a new girlfriend for about a week and I temporarily cut off communication because it is way too hard for me to deal with. We have a concert to go to one month from now that I had gotten the tickets for his birthday. He promises I will still be his best friend no matter what and he is here for me 100%. He says that I am an amazing person.
I have been with him and without him and I know that I am happiest with him. I thought we'd end up back together until he got this new girlfriend, and now I am heartbroken. I want a marriage and a future with this man. If I keep being his best friend, do you think he may come back? And if so, is this temporary hiatus of our friendship a bad idea?
I have no record of your message from last week, maybe you accidentally made a slight error in your email address which would prevent you from getting an answer.
You should continue to be his best friend and go to the concert with him. This new girlfriend may be a temporary thing and you may be back together soon. While a hiatus may be good, it is generally a bad thing for a relationship.
Have you told your ex that you want to marry him? My guess is that you haven't. This is an important thing to do at some point. It is good to be as open as possible with him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com