1 girl, 1 girl's boyfriend, ME, and 1 Messed up situation!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok I worked with this girl all summer who never really payed any attentionto me and at the end of it we decide to go on a trip (Everyone from work) but only the Boss and this other girl who i thought was absolutely gorgeous but never stood a chance because she had a boyfriend.
So we get to Cancun, Mexico and the first couple days we are getting along great having an awesome time. Then one night she sends a couple signals that she wanted to hook up (tons of flirting). So everyone leaves the pool area, we have a couple drinks in us and one thing lead to another and we ended up hooking up. I think its jsut a drunk thing but she says there was "sexual tension" there all summer. The rest of the trip was amazing, it was like I had a girlffriend for the rest of the week. We both knew that it might just be a Mexico thing and when we get back, you never know what might happen right?
We get back, we chill once and nothing happened but then the next couple times we went out for drinks or chilled in and watched some hockey then we made out and every time we made out after we both would talk about how she needs to make a decsion and every time I kept falling for her more and more. Eventually she decides to stay with her boy friend but she still has feelings for me so we are going to try and be friends.
I am trying so hard to be "friends" but my feelings are keeping me from being a true friend. I want to grab her and kiss her but thats off limits now. Now the true problem is my feelings for her are so strong and we were never really friends to begin with. So we have a hard time hanging out and talking. what should I do? I've been in many situations with girls but never one like this. Am I wasting my time trying to get her on my team? Or should I suck it up and be friends with her which is hard because we can't keep a conversation going? Please help me I've never been so confused?!?!
P.s. what the hell is SEXUAL TENSION?
Sexual tension is just a mutual feeling of sexual attraction. Like you are checking each other out all the time.
A good bet is to be friends like you said. You skipped that crucial step on your first go around. Ask her out for lunch (as a friend) and if she's up for it, out for drinks.
Work very hard at conversation, sharing feelings, and complimenting her. Any person would enjoy that kind of attention. Learn to talk with her or you're never going anywhere with her. And why would you want to be with someone you can't talk to except for sex. That's no basis for a relationship.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com