Do I go with what I belive in or stay with him?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Im 19 and five months ago I moved into a house as a roommate renting a room with a 35 year old man single who ownes the house. I was very worried at first but as we got to know each other I had no worries and was very comfortable around him, I worked at a gas station at the time right around the courner from our house and he would always stop in and say hello on his way home, one day he came in and shared with me that he invited a woman over to have "alone" time with her as far as I knew they would just hook up now and then I found out later that she was a married woman with 2 kids! I really did'nt care at the time but about two months after moving in we started dating. Every one told him and I not a good idea! I know. But things went really well for us I met his best friend and we all got along really well every thing was going really well. UNTILL I realized that he was still in contact with her so I sat him down and told him how I felt about him even talking to her. He said ok I won't talk to her..... she would call every day non-stop so I finnaly could'nt take any more and I moved out and we broke up. two weeks went by untill he called me and invited me over to talk he said he was really sorry for hurting me and lieing to me about talking to her.( She was not the only problem in our realationship) I told him if we were going to give it one more try that we would have to date for awhile so I knew for sure this is what we both wanted. one month went by and in that time everything went great! So I agreed to move back in on the condision that he change his phone number and stop talking to "her" and I would change mine as well. He agreed and I moved back in it's been one month and I fould out tonight that she has tracked him down and started calling him again. He say's it's really hard for him not to talk to her because she was there for him in a time in his life were he was really depressed. I really hate the thought of them having contact and I don't know if I can deal with them talking again because she was the big sourse of our problems the first time around. I have no reason to belive he is cheating on me but I am really angry and hurt that this is going on. Out of respect for him I don't say any thing to her but she is well aware of how I feel. But she still keeps callin, and she called tonight while my man came to see me at work as I grave yard, 12 at night she called! That to me is lack of respect for me and my realtionship. He say's she is going throught a divorce ( wow shock!) and she just askes gerneral questions when she calls, so he tells me any way. I don't know weither to let it go and let them talk to each other or go with what I belive and leave him for good. Please Help!!!
You have to go with what you believe.
There's no way you can ignore your feelings.
Dump the guy and find someone new.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com