Does she just not like me at all anymore?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Well here some background info first.
We known each other for 6 closing in on 7 probably years now. Well that was from middle school to now out of highschool. So, anyway we started talkin online and school and always hangin round each other, she always seemed to have a boyfriend or was in process in having one, we were still close and a few times it felt like i was her boyfriend or wanted to be... but we never kissed or anything more than hugs.
At some point in highschool it became known to her, that i liked her and it was open. though at that same time she was "going out" (was for bout a week only, total) with my best friend. and i literally watched it in study hall (mind you were all in same period then)
OK, so after that she got with another guy, and things were good, once inawhile i hung out wit them someplace and it was cool, no issued just me being her friend. fine with me, though i got over liking her for awhile, after a year + i liked her again.. and she was having problems on and off with the current BF when i started liking her again. So...after that eventually coming closer to this year, she broke up with him and was then seeing her "childhood- neighbor friend" (boy, who is 2 years younger i think -she 19, he 17.)they got closer, to the point hangin out at each other houses later at night, throughout this i still talked online. and it was fine, we also hung out movies and what not, and she teased me about doing stuff in the dark in the movies.. im still not sure what she was gettin at, she did it more than a couple times.
and then of course, she started gettin to the point, making it short: went out with this 17 guy so. that was it for me, i thought.
a few things to note at this same time, i been depressed about multiple things, and prior i had ALWAYS no matter what listened to her issues and always helped anyway i could, but it seemed when i had a problem i couldnt rant like she could and when i did regardless, i got some help but it wasnt consistant, i dont know if it was me or what... more the reason why i stopped bringing up my problems and just soaked it up. and when i had more recently tried to ask how she was (not bothering her with my stuff) i got mostly nothing, and i couldnt say anythin bout myself, or it would just be my depression.
after this, which would be about 3 months now, we havnt talked again, and i havnt atempted to talk since the last few times last month i got nothing but a hi back and not much for what was up. and never any convos started by her.
so my questions is..... does she just hate me for ranting about my problems so much so, she would rather lose me as a friend? i dont know what to do anymore..... (also im no longer depressed but this has been upsetting me now)
There is probably some confusion between you two.
You need to talk it out and share your feelings. Have a long honest talk with her and try to find out what is troubling her. If you have to do it through email then do it that way.
Don't let a good friendship like yours' disappear over a misunderstanding.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com