I want it to be the way it used to be...Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I feel as if I'm on the end of my rope. I met a guy on vacation in Hawaii at the beginning of the year. Maybe it should of been a vacation thing, it always is. However when I moved back home, I started to feel empty. We talked everyday and next thing I know, I packed up and moved to Hawaii, the best time of my life. A few months later, we left Hawaii. To make a long story short, I ended coming back to his home city(and my former home) to begin a life with him. He is so wonderful and beautiful and the list just goes on and on. He fills me with so much love and his words are so incredible, you cannot not feel the love when you're around us. Three days ago, we were apartment hunting. Two days ago, I was in his arms. 1 hour later, he told me he doesn't want to move in with me. My initial reaction was to bolt, which I did while he went into the store. I thought I could walk away but I can't. I'm calling him like a crazy woman, saying I'm sorry and for a chance, we never fought like this before, come to think of it, we rarely fought, this came out of nowhere. He says he's not ready to move out from his family (he's 10 years younger than me). But he's been so sure before, don't know where this is coming from, I came here for him. And the hurt now comes from the things he's saying to me. "I don't love you anymore. Stop calling me. I don't want to live with you. I'm not ready." Etc etc. It's only been two days and I am in denial. I can't believe he can go from hot to cold in the matter of hours. I see no light at the end of the tunnel. I want him back. Please help me get him back and the way it used to be in Hawaii, where everything was just perfect...
You are old enough to know that people can change very rapidly and for no apparant reason.
Something about the apartment hunting turned him away from your relationship and it will be difficult and possibly impossible to turn back.
It's only been two days and you shouldn't necessarily take this all for finality. He may change his mind in hours. Do you want to live with this kind of back and forth? Probably yes.
Give this a bit more time to see what the outcome is.
Good luck! George
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