Does she love me enough to marry me?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
I have a dear friend (26 year old female)which I know for the past 6 years, we studied in a fouriegn country together and were flat mates.I always keep intouch with her since. I call her during my good times and my bad times because she comforts me. We both had relationships with other people during that 6 year period but always had that special link no matter who we were envolved with. But just a few months ago she was caught in a war zone which kept me up all night and constantly calling her to make sure she was alive!.It was very depressing. After the war we got closer to each other.I then realised then that life is too short and that you could loose the one you love instantly. I planned to visit her next month in her country so that we could be together to hang out and catch up.
I honestly love her with all my heart for the past 3 years but was not able to express it. I would love to propose to her but am worried of rejection at the moment.
During my visit I plan to test the waters and see if I could take our relationship to the next level and then let time take its course in the relationship.But for marriage I dont know if she loves me enough to get married to me.
What do I do?
Thanx and hope to hear from you soon! :)
The important thing is to be honest with her.
Tell her just what you told me. Lay it on the line and hope she feels the same way or that she could learn to feel the same way.
She probably feels just as vulnerable as you do right now and will accept your feelings more readily than normal. Talk, be trustworthy, and be affectionate.
It is too soon to talk of marriage, however.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com