Is she misleading me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi my name is (John). Okay I like this Girl named (Jenny) and well the thing is I guess I should had hurried up to make my move to get her but anyways she is now going out with this guy well she goes to church and she had invited me to go see her sing at her church. Since I like her You know I am going to have all kinds of things going through my head but is she really inviting me as a friend or what because I am really confused you know. And I am saying this because I seriously think that If I had a Girlfriend I would only invite my friends that are dudes to umm "(watch me play the drums)" or whatever not another girl (you know what I mean)? Or could it be Because I have been her friend for 2yrs now and she trusts me or something.... Then I also want to say is that,It's okay she has a boyfriend I guess that's good for her but when do I ever tell her I "like Her" or how long do I wait for them to break up or something. By the way they have been going out for about 3 weeks. And how would I know of early signs of a long relationship. (I also Have to mention that in the 8th grade (Jenny) had been talking to her friend saying "should I go out with that boy" meaning me (John) and her friend said no "he is a bit to chubby" then she said "well okay".) I "WANTED" to let her know that "I like her" recently on her "myspace" (E-mail) but is that corwardly or is that smart or what,thats why I stoped here first before I do anything I regret... I'm sorry about the long page but I have to know this, please help me out thanks.
She has only been going out with this boy for three weeks.
You should certainly accept her invitation to go to church and listen to her sing. After it is over go up to her (even if her boyfriend is there) and compliment her on how nice she looks and how great the choir sounded. Ask if there are other events that you could come to. Maybe the church has a youth group that she's part of. Find out if you could go to it. Church youth groups are tons of fun and a great place to meet girls.
You can't really try to break her up from her BF, but you can ask her to go out as a friend, hang out, movies, walks, picnics, outings, etc.
Keep communicating with her and sharing your feelings back and forth. And always compliment her on something... how nice her hair looks, nice smile, nice dresser, etc. This is affection and everyone needs it.
Good luck to you! George
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