A Twisted Relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok my best friend and i dated (hes a guy) but we broke up because we werent ready to date but now we've been spending more time together and he kissed me. Well he wants to go back out with me and i want to go back out with him but hes in a relationship he doesnt want to be in and hes to soft hearted to break up with her, well anyway he knows how i feel about him, but we dont communicate very well we're both Gemini's and when something bothers us we just shut up, ive emailed him and told him many things now, but he wont tell me how he feels i think hes afraid of commitment rejectment and closeness.
How can i get him to slowly trust me better and to talk to me more? And how can i explain when commitment comes in a realtionship to him, ive already told him that commitment comes when the relationship grows more and becomes intimate and more mature. Please Help ME!!!!
OK, first off, NEVER EVER blame a relationship situation on astrology signs!! Your relationship with this guy is NOT like 1/12th of the world's population! It is an incredibly UNIQUE situation that is ONLY about you and him. You need to address it in how YOU and HE act - and you each are FAR more complex than just matching that one sign's traits.
Second, he is being REALLY REALLY mean to his girlfriend. He is NOT being soft hearted. He is being selfish! She deserves a real boyfriend that loves her, doesn't she? Instead he is making her PUT UP with him as "good enough" even though he is cheating on her. So instead of being free to find a great guy that loves her and is honest with her and trustworthy, he is *tricking her* into staying with him even though he's cheating on her and deceiving her and does NOT love her. How is this even remotely good for her?? If he WAS soft hearted, he would let her go and help her find someone that deserves her!! Tell him to stop being selfish and to start thinking of her needs instead.
Once he handles his girlfriend, then you can start having other thoughts. But right now he is DATING SOMEONE and that needs to be his priority.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com