Confused... is he playing again?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
4 years ago i met this hot guy. His friend really liked me and i kinda liked him too but we ended up good friends, when he started dating another girl. Although the hot guy knew his friend liked me, i felt like he was flirting with me (but he did that with other girls... there are so many girls out there that are after him). Weird enough, he never goes out with anyone, he just likes to flirt and he is scared of any commitment. So... i was stupid enough to fall for him and then he stopped flirting and started ignoring me. When i stopped giving him attention, he kept coming back. Ok so i realized he was just playing and i moved on and now i'm dating someone else (almost a year now). We never got to know eachother well till a month ago. But now we are in the same gym class and he started being nice again and we became friends. He winked a couple of times, he smiles and he asks me to play with him before class and sometimes during class. He also touches my shoulders and he is really friendly, he talks a lot about himself and also asks how i feel about stuff. There is this other guy that seems to like me and they always try to get my attention before the other one does, he tries to sit next to me, etc. On the other hand, he knows i have a bf... The worst part is that i am starting to like him again. I love my boyfriend (i find our relation almost perfect), but sometimes i feel like i need something new.
Is the hot guy just trying to see if he can make me like him again or does he really like me (since it's the first time he actually gets to know the real me)? Also, if it turns out that he likes me, should I go with him and risk to lose a great boyfriend for a jerk? txs for ur help
The hot guy is doing what comes naturally to him-- flirting, winking, and touching.
Of course you are going to respond to this because it is natural to do so. Why not end the suspense and ask him how he feels about you... whether there is romance or is it just playing? My guess is that he will say he is just playing and then stop playing with you. Perhaps you don't won't to risk that happening and in that case don't ask him.
You have an almost perfect boyfriend right now. Are you really sure you want to risk everything you have trying to get something you probably won't get? Enjoy the flirting but stick with your boyfriend.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com