contact from a pregnant ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I (23) broke up with ex-girl (19) due to stealing from sister and questioned cheating. At same time, her parents, friends, siblings disliked me due to hidden drug problem. Continued seeing/sleeping w/ each other for two months but she wouldn't say we were back together. She strung me along, doing hurtful things and made sure i was aware of them, I kept up with my drug problem hidden from her. Then she met a new guy, started dating him. She then made it clear that she didn't want anything to do with me and my drug problem. From there she called "out of the blue" every two months or so after. Each time trying to ask questions to establish my status. Including an episode where she and the new guy briefly split acting unusually friendly towards me. The next one 3 months later to tell me she was pregnant by new guy, unplanned. I thought I spoke with her for the last time when i returned with a "two months later call" and felt no emotion in her voice for the first time. Now 6 months went by i kicked my drug issue and rebounded, no contact from her, suddenly 1 month to baby due date, she sends me an email. Briefly reading- "Ran into yer sister, wanted to know what your up to, hope to hear from you." I went with a "Hi. Doing good. Take care" short approach. Now she has responded with an angry tone, "thought you'd be happy to hear from me but you don't want to say anything to me. Saw you in your car but chose not to say hi, i know your sister wasn't happy to see me. TALK TO ME IT WOULD BE NICE TO HEAR FROM YOU."
I have no clue what this means or how to approach it...
My heart tells me I still love her, my head says run.
She really loved me and I her, till drugs, families, friends all made it impossible, BUT SHE'S PREGNANT!
This may be wrong, but it sounds like she is looking for a male to act as the father to her child.
If you want to do that, then go ahead and talk with her and see what happens. If you are reluctant to become a father then tell her you have moved on.
Another approach would be to wait until the baby is born and see how you and she feel about each other then. My advice is to wait.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com