Does She like me Or just using me?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have been Dating this girl from work for about 4 months already. Eeverything started as a friendship but very flirtacious, like heading somewhere else. We have great communication since the beginning. We talk for hours and can spend together a whole life time if necessary without getting bored. But she doesn't want committment. We respect each other in every way and while talking to each one another we dont date other people nor go out with our regular friends as much. Our sex life is the greatest and my parents love her as well as her parents like me. We do everything as boyfriend and girlfriend. She is always there for me when I need her and I am always there for her when she needs me. she is my last and first call of the day as well as i am hers. When we are alone with my friends or family she acts like my girlfriend. she is also presented as one and she doesn't mind at all. However in front of her parents or her friends she changes completely and she acts like am just a regular friend. Recently I got tired already of that situation of the double personality and i told her that is better for us not to continue. She was very sad about it and just said that she didn't want a relationship but that she really felt like I give her something she never had before and she doesn't want to stop our relationship. What should I do? This is the perfect girl for mom and dad, only child, family oriented, only 1 boyfriend etc. She is 19 and I am 22. Does she really like me or does she just want to play around? It really doesn't seem like it at all when we are alone or with my folks or friends. Only at her place or with her friends . Am confused. Should I end it? or give her more time? It took me some time for her to open up to me since her last boyfriend cheated on her and they were going out for 4 years. Can that be the issue? PLease help
It's only been four months.
Give her more time to become comfortable acknowledging you as a boyfriend in front of her parents and friends. She's not using you.
If you can't find it in you heart to do this then it isn't much of a relationship.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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