girlfriend cheated on me after 2 1/2 years
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
two weekends ago was my girlfriends birthday and i was stuck at work. i called her around noon to ask her if she could try to be in town around 9 so i could see her. she blew up at me and said she doesnt want to wait around for me to get off and that it is her birthday and she was gonna have some fun. this irritated me all day. i called her later on about 8 telling her that i was gonna come over and see her. i knew where she was. she went to a hotel with her friend to hang out with some guys that were up in town for two more weeks for work. which all of them were about 28 years old. my girlfriend was just turning 18. i trusted her to be with them...even with alcohol. i knocked on the hotel room door around 9:30 and when it opened i seen sara standing kinda close with one of the guys. i took her outside to talk to her...just to mention i have never seen her this drunk. she asked me what i was doing at the hotel...she seemed she didnt even care i was there and that i brought flowers for her. i was gonna leave but not knowing that she wasnt gonna have a safe way home.she was rude to me the entire night. when we got back to her house she said she was tired of talking to me, she was tired, and was going to bed. the next day i broke up with her because i found out she was holding hands and getting flirty with some mexican she doesnt even know. and the kicker of it all. i was gonna forgive her because its a silly little thing, but her friend told me something that shocked me...i nearly hit the floor. she told me that she had sex with two of the guys from the hotel last weekend of that night when she was drunk!!!!!!!!!i went to her house immeadiatly to talk to her. i told her and she broke down crying. she said she didnt know what happened until she sobered up, and the flirting with the mexican was to cover it up so the didnt have to tell me...cause she knew it would kill me.i asked her smple questions. it wasnt at the same time, condoms were used. the guys are 10 years older than her, they are from texas to work and are leaving in a week. it didnt mean anything to her, she was drunk, she said she loves me-which isnt a lie. i love her, but should i? shes not the type to do this. she has a record to get a little flirty when drunk, but not this. i believe that she has learned a lot from this experience and that she will change for the better. she admited everything, she said she would stop drinking, and put more time into us.i believe i can get over it just knowing what i just said. BUT should i even give her a second chance...a last chance? Please help me...is my love for her blinding my judgement or did she make a mistake she really does feel bad, she will learn from it and it didnt mean anything to her. im so confused on what to do
If you feel that you can trust her in the future, then go for it.
However, it's not going to work out if you harbor resentment or act jealous in the future. This will inevitably break you apart. You need to really put it behind you and go on with your lives together.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com