What should I do, I'm pregnant and he is married with a family
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I have been having an affair with someone who used to work where I do for over a year. Up to this point, it has been the best relationship either of us has had. I just found out that I'm pregnant. He is almost fifty, and has two kids in college. I told him yesterday. He said that I have one choice, and that is to have an abortion. My biggest fear is that I will never see him again. My gut says that even with an abortion, he is so freaked out, that he isn't going to take chances with me anymore. But I could be wrong.... I want the baby, but I want him more. What do I do? More than likely, people will figure out that the baby is his. His wife will leave him, his kids will hate him. I don't want to do that to him, but I don't want to go through the rest of my life wondering what it would have been like to have had the baby... there is no easy answer.
To me, most of the factors point to having the baby.
As you said, even if you have an abortion, he might still leave you. And you will never know the baby or have that physical memory of a wonderful relationship.
If you keep the baby and stay in town, all sorts of bad things could happen to his life and he is almost certain to drop you.
What comes to mind, is for you to move away, have the baby, and pursue your own life... hopefully with a new love. Or if you can't bear the thought of losing your love entirely, don't move so far away that you can't see him from time to time.
This is a tough problem and my advice is to seek professional counseling right away to help you sort through your thoughts.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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