the break up
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me. I cried and cried that I did not want this but all he said was that I said I would change before and I didnt. He told me that we needed time apart and to give him some time to focus and catch up on his life.
He has many problems going on for him right now. I have always known this and have done nothing but help and stay by his side. My family accepted him (this was not easy). He is very busy with school, work, he is the editor in cheif of his college newspaper and he has ME. I admit that I saw and felt that he was pulling away from me. I was not longer what he thought of. I became a chore and a distraction. That is what he told me when we broke up.
I became the jealous girlfriend, calling and getting mad because he couldnt answer the cell phone, or because he still wasnt home...Its my fault for pushing him so far. He became so angry with me that it pushed him to break everything off!
At first..He was the one who got me used to the calling to say good morning..goodnight...and just everything! It seems as if he forgot that part! Even questions seemed hard and like a chore for him to answer. Now we are not together. He said he doesnt feel the same and we should be friends then possibly try dating again. I cant see how that could even work with us. There were too much feelings there for that crap. He told me that he had no time for a relationship and a girlfriend! I feel that this is so unfair! He hasnt called in 3 days! I called him and he acted cold and told me he had to go to bed. He didnt even want me to tell my family that we broke up! My family is like his family! I miss him and I dont know how to possibly go about this!
Everyone is telling me to NOT CALL HIM! but i feel that I just cant leave things like this. Should I give him time? believe it or not in the little time that we have been apart I learned that you cannot depend on anyone to make you happy. Before I would sit at home and call him and call and call and made him know that I was miserable at home! I was not focused either. When he was doing something he would not call at all! Before he always would. I think that he got so sick of the fights about not calling and my jealousy that I drove him away! Please tell me what I should do. I tried telling him things would change. He told me that this is not all my fault! He doesnt have the time to give me that I deserve. He said that even in the good times I am a distraction!!! Please help and adviseme the best you can. I appreciate it so much!
You've tried contacting him and made no progress with him.
So your friends are probably right. Don't contact him at all and see how he reacts.
Prepare yourself for the possibility that you won't get him back or if you do he might be unreliable.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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