I Want to Date my Best Friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Hi, I have a major dilemma. I'm 15 and I really like this girl I've known for almost 2 and a half years now. We have many things in common and I think we would be good together. She is a very close friend of mine. She is my sister's best friend and I just can't stop thinking about her at all, no matter how hard I try. My whole family is friends with her family, and she, her sister, my sister, and I are a small group of best friends.
I'm scared to tell her how I feel because I don't want to screw up our friendship. My sister and I often spend the night at her house or vice-versa, and I know her very well.
The trouble is, I've never had a girlfriend before and I'm extremely nervous about asking someone out. I'm also not sure if she likes me or not. I think she used to like me, but that was almost two years ago. I just don't know what to do. We don't go to the same school, but we might in a year or two. It would make me feel very uncomfortable being with her in front of our families.
What should I do? I know you have received this kind of question multiple times, and I have read alot of them, but please try to help me as much as you can.
You're very right that I've answered this question many, many times :) Hopefully by reading the other answers you'll know what my response will be! The answer is NOT to go diving into asking her to go to a fancy restaurant and dinner with you. You have to take this slowly, so that she AND you can see that a relationship that is even stronger will strengthen what you two have together, and not harm it at all.
So you guys already talk a lot and do things together. That's great - you have a head start over most people in this situation! Keep doing those things. Be sure to bring her a little present for her birthday and other holidays, just like any friend would do. Make the presents special things that show how much you really know her - not just as 'a girl' but as the special individual she really is.
Ask her to a fun movie together that you know she'll like. Again, don't make it a big deal. Do it as friends. The more you do together as friends, the more normal it will be. And the more you do together, the closer you will get, and the more she'll realize what a great pair you two make.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com