What should I do, Should I Give Up?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have been dating a guy for 1 year and 7 months, and we are now 4 and a half months pregnant. I am 18 and he is 21. We have been inseperable the entire time we dated. At 2 months he gave me his highschool ring and 9 months a promise ring. We've have been through everything together. During the past few months I have been mean to him and didn't even realize it. He never told me about it and after one fight he broke up with me. Since the break up we've talked a few times and hes told me how I've made him felt and I have gotten help to fix my problem. I keep trying to get him back and he says that theres a big "IF" he'll take me back, but he sees my changes. Somedays I feel like we'll get back together and other days I feel hopeless. Do you think in time he'll come back, or do you think he is just stringing me along? What should I do? A few days befor the break up he told me how much he loved me, now he won't say if he loves me still or not, do you think he still does?
If you haven't done so already, explain to him how the hormonal changes of pregnancy can cause negative feelings in the mother and that part of being a couple is recognizing this and working *together* on dealing with it.
This may show him that he is part of the problem for not supporting you when you were "mean" to him.
Regarding your questions about his feelings for you, I can't give you an answer with so little to go on.
If you can find affordable professional counseling I would advise doing so.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com