Want him back
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
i was with my ex for nearly five years and he broke up with me 7 months ago. im 22 and he is 30. we were fighting alot and he said he doesnt need the stress while he focusses on his career. he said he always is worried about me ad concerned. he said he doesnt want anyone to influence his work decisions.
i will keep this as short as possible. i told him i cant be his friend. he kept turning up at my house, gym and my work and said it was to see if i was ok. he told me im a speacial person to him and hes not sure what will happen in the future but it is over now. he said things like it is 100% over when i do things with someone else and that he wont move on till i move on. im really conused.i sent him emails and spoke to him to tell him how i feel. i begged for him back. i love him so much and i just want a second chance to show him the fighting over stupid little things will stop and things will be better. i have told him this. he came to my house and told me im in his heart and he has feelings for me, that im his angel and no one will ever know him or love him like me. then over a week later he rang me and said he dont love me anymore and it is over and there is no hope for us. he was being rude abouit it. how can someone just change like that? is there anything that i could do to try get us to start over again. he used to really love me, he said the love is gone and he dont feel the same anymore. i dont understand how someone can change there mind like that. is there anything i can do to rekindle our love or get that chance for us to be happy? it is really hard for me to move on as i love him with all my heart. last time he spoke to me that was it.he wont contact me anymore. so im not sure what to do coz i have tryed everything
You will need to accept the fact that you may never get him back and even if you do he might not be dependable.
Keeping this in mind, try to become his friend. Ask him if you can call him once a week for 15 mins just to see how he is but not talk about your relationship. After a while he may begin to mellow and remember the good times you had. You would have to be cheerful when you called.
Once you talk a number of times, invite him over for his favorite home-cooked meal--most men find that irresistable.
These are a couple of things to try. But keep in mind that they are long shots.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com