Is he cheating?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Ok so I have been dating my fiance' for a year and a half. We have known each other since we were 12 and 10 years ago he moved away and then he moved back dec 04 we have been together ever since. We were best friends before he moved and he would come and visit his mom and I would see him then because she lived 2 houses down from me. On Aug 4th I was proposed to and said yes we have been planning our wedding. On Aug 10 I got our cell phone bills and there is a phone number that was called 200 times and 400 text messages to some girl he works with that I have never met nor I have ever heard of. When I ask him about this number he tells me its his friend from work and that he felt like he couldn't talk to me about him feeling scared about getting married and she is the person who he talked to. So he told me he wouldn't talk to her anymore and even told me that he told her they couldnt be friends anymore. Well then last friday I saw a text message from him asking how his girl was this am and she said fine are you at work and he stated yes I miss you baby and she then tells him she misses him. This girl just got married 5 months ago and that's why he supposely talks to her about marriage. I think he's cheating because of the phone bill and text messages but he swears and swears and crys that he hasn't cheated on me that it's nothing like that. He doesn't understand why I'm asking him not to be her friend because nothing has happend between them that they are just friends and that I'm being silly. Do you think he's cheating on me and should I leave him or should i still marry him. PLEASE HELP
He may not be physically cheating, but he is emotionally cheating.
Since all his contacts are on the phone bill he certainly wasn't trying to hide anything from you. So that argues against cheating.
But, if he has this volume of doubt about marriage my advice is to cancel the wedding plans and see where he goes from there. He doesn't sound ready for marriage. You don't have to leave him but DON'T marry him.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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