flirting with my co-worker turned into a lust affair
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I've been with my boyfriend for a year in a half. He is the sweetest guy ever, we hang out and both are into outdoor activities, but lately I've been feeling like we're more like friends than boyfriend and girlfriend. Everyone tells me i'm too young and that i should be having fun, but i dont know how to let him go. I think maybe what they said finally got to me because I went out with this hot guy who has recently been flirting with me. I heard this guy is bad news but yet I still went out with him. We went out on two dates and on the third date we finally kissed. My boyfriend has been asking where i've been but i make up stories so he dosnt find out. Me and my co-worker text eachother all the time and he sounds interested but I havent slept with him so im guessing thats what his waiting for. The weird thing is that i want to but im afraid if i do he'll never talk to me again. He's way older than me ( 7yrs older) we have nothing in common, i'm a total spaz and his so well achieved and mature. He told me he like me eventhough he was lieing I let my self fall for his sweet talk and let him kiss me. Okay here's the senario I care for my boyfrined alot and this guy rikindeld feelings of lust that i never felt before. I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 20 are we too young to to be so serious or do I sound like I'm making excuses to have sex with another man.
A lot of women at age 21 want to blossom out and see the world.
They tell their b/f that they need a break and then they go out looking for romance. This seems to be what you are doing.
If this is what you want, tell your b/f and have fun. Just remember your b/f may not be waiting for you when you are done.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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