Am I crazy????
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I was with a guy for two years he was great at first but after about two months and me finding a job (Yes I moved from LA to GA to be with him) he started accusing me of cheating and checking my email (secretly) as well as my cell phone and home phone bills. I was planning to marry him and planning are wedding at the time, running errands and making tons of calls to vendors of all kind. I explained this to him but he would not listen. It got way to crazy so I moved out, but continued to date him hoping that the disatnce would help him to clear his mind. It worked for awhile but he went back to the same old thing. I never cheated, never wanted to cheat and never threatened to cheat. But he just kept "finding evidence to prove other wise" i.e. he would say I had pebbles in my tires from a certain road and I must have been with another guy. I live in a rural town in GA, all streets have pebbles. He has called the phone man, cable man , my girlfriends brother, my girlfriends sister checking numbers, it's so embarrasing to have to keep explaining he is just a nut. About five months down the line he cheats on me and says he did because he thought I cheated on him. I told him that was a lame excuse so we separated for a few weeks and I like a dummy missed him(hello I don't know anybody here yet)We talk I still expalin that I didn't and I wouldn't cheat because it is childish and if we hasd problems we would discuss them and if things couldn't be resolved one or the other could move on, but definitely no more cheating, it's fair to the other person. We are together for about a week and I find text msgs from the other girl, I ask him about it and he says she won't stopbut thathe does not incourage her. I find kater that he has been to see her and he has been talking to her. I am pissed, again he blames me for not fully trusting him. I explain trust is earned after it has been broken and he has done nothing to earn it and he just starts complaining about any and everything, so I tell him to get out. Is he truly that dumb or just trying to find an excuse to go back to the other woman?? I believe the later, but I don't have anyone to share this with and I don't want to worry my family and friends back home. Help me out paleese!
You said it, he is a nut.
And, he's not going to change.
Pack your things and move back to LA. Get this jerk out of your life.
But, if you decide to continue to live this miserable life, do yourself a favor and see a professional counselor.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com