I was dishonest about the same thing twice
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
To make a long story short I tried to trick my ex boyfriend into talking to me on a fake screen name. We were together for over two years and things have been crazy since the 8th of September. He was trying to get with some other girl but she wouldnt take him cause she was waiting for her ex boyfriend to come back and now they are talking again and my ex keeps saying he doesnt know what he wants he said I hurt him and how does he know if I will do this again. How can I make him understand that i wont even though I did it before and I know in my heart I am truly serious about the fact that I am not going to decieve him again. I had my reasons for doing what I did cause he made me feel like I couldnt trust him. But now he wont make up his mind and he is saying he just wants to be friends right now. Im so hurt and tore up I love him very much and I dont want to see him move on without at least first giving me a chance.
It's a matter of trust.
You didn't trust him so you deceived him.
Now he doesn't trust you so he just wants to be friends.
Suggest to him that you both need to work on the trust issue and the way to do that is to have long, deep talks about this topic and other things that bother you in life. Sharing feelings will help rebuild trust.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com