Bc0z i dont give up my ultimate goal for my Beloved Bestfriend, i was rejected by him...(T_T)
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Now, I am seventeen. Dredging up memories about the guy who are tend to be my dear best friend. Weíre always been together, we shared lots of sh*ts in life and even shared out top secrets. Without our knowledge and with our big surprise we found ourselves falling inloved with each other. Hey, what about my goal? I know that I was totally dippy when I told him that I wonít give up my goal just for the sake of love. Itís not yet the right time. There are still seven years long to wait and my best friend could no longer wait for me coz he want to enjoy his love life with official commitment. Especially he never experience having a girlfriend too.One day, we had a serious talk, and he said he was already taken by another girl and he doesnít know if he still loves me or not. But he said we can still be friends. And the saddest part in the end of it all is when he treat me so bleak as if Iím totally out of his life and his never been my best friend. He does lots of things which he knows I donít want him to do but he do it exactly in front of me. i was really hurt and felt rejected by him coz although i know i have no right to stop him but i want him to consider and treated me as really his bestfriend. and because of what he done to me, i know i can never win him back. i can feel that he dont love me anymore even so small. and it hurts. i am now started moving on. but how can i? we are studying in one school, i can always see him with his gf anywhere in school and we almost spend our whole day in school so no time for both of us to scape from sight. so my question is...how can i forget our past memories? how can i totally forget him? how can i treat him as my plain bestfriend again coz i could no longer act with myself? i become paranoid. please help me...
anything you will say can help me ease my burden coz i believe you!!!
You cannot forget him or your past memories.
That's not how humans work. We remember even when we don't want to. You are doing the right thing by trying to keep things at a friendship level.
Eventually your feelings will lessen and especially when you find a new b/f, which will happen one day before you know it.
So keep your memories, they will probably stay with you the rest of your life, but don't let those memories rule you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com