Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I'm 33 years old and have being seeing a guy (34) for the past 4 months. Both of us just got out of marriages. Mine - 5 years and his - 12 years. The thing is we are totally opposites. He is not a romantic, curses like a sailor, comes and goes when he pleases, moody, tempered, jealious, and comes across harsh. While I am a southern bell. But together we have a ball. We love each other, Deeply. He says he has a cold heart and is scared that will drive me away. I told him the only way it will work is for him to open up and let me in but he doesn't trust anyone....not even me. How can I get him to open up and let me in. It hurts me to see him so cold and bitter.
He doesn't sound like good dating material, but since you asked:
You need to establish a good relationship with him (starting with a good feeling of friendship). A good relationship includes communication, trust, and affection.
Talk with him honestly and openly; build trust by sharing feelings and laughing together; and, show him affection by complimenting him and praising him. Increase these behaviors as your relationship grows and he may let you into his heart.
Also, make him good meals. Remember that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com