Does my ex still like me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I really need to know if my ex still likes me. We had been goin out for 3 months and everything seemed perfect. Then towards the end of last month he started actin weird. He asked me where I saw our relationship going.He said that he was tired of the whole dating thing and he said it "wasn't me" that it's him.What they all say. Anyway, and he said that we shouldn't be seeing how far we can get to the edge without going over.From what he told me it sounded like he was afraid that if we continued dating he wouldn't be able to control himself anymore and that he might take advantage of me and he didn't want to do that cause he respects me, but he gets turned on in the blink of an eye.I don't think that he trusts himself. Then he said that he needed "a break" and so I asked him if we were breaking up or staying a couple and backin off for a bit. He said that we weren't breakin up just takin a break. So like a few days after that we were talkin on the phone and I asked him if we were still a couple and just coolin it for a while and stuff and he said "yeah I guess" and trailed off which just made me feel like he did want to break up. So then the day after that we decided that we both felt that we should just be friends for now. He also told me that he didn't really want to date anyone else until after high school. So it's been about 3 weeks since we broke up and he's already flirting around with other girls and trying to get a date for homecoming and I thought that we were still thinkin about going together but he posted this bulletin on myspace titled: any girls interested? that said I'm takin homecoming applications. send in your ex boyfriends resumes and any other info..etc. It really hurts me because he knows that I can see that and he's already tryin to get somebody else and it's makin me feel like I meant nothin.There was also this girl on his friend list on myspace that posted a blog with "44 things a girl would die for" and he left a comment on there sayin: "hey I was just wonderin if maybe I could be the guy to do this for u. Of course I'd have to meet u and get to know u a lot better than I do now. but I was j/w if it could be a future thing." He's also a big flirt and will do anything to get attention from a girl btw. I was SO MAD and I just bawled after I read that.Is he doin it to get over me quicker or did he just not care at all? I really loved him and still do..amazingly.. and the reason I'm askin if he's still into me is because he constantly IMS me now like everytime I get on or right when he gets on he ims me and stuff like all the time.He called me again just to talk like last week.I even hung out with him at the state fair recently and it was SO hard not to grab his hand or hug or kiss him.Also,while we were there I caught him checkin me out still and when he noticed that I saw, he quickly looked away. He also seemed really fidgety with his hand while I was walkin beside him, our hands were really close and I swore one time that he was gonna grab my hand. But he kept on trying to do something with it, movin it up and down, just wouldn't hold it still while I was walkin next to him.I did have one of my girl friends with me that day too so maybe he didn't want to show anythin towards me because she was there and it would be akward for her.Then he even told me that I'm a great girl and that's why he was tryin to think why this was happening. I even asked him "did u really want to break up? or did u just want to stay a couple and "take a break" like you said? and he told me "I'm still wonderin that myself." So he doesn't even know if he really wanted to break up. He also admitted that he would still like to makeout with me and sleep with me. I recently told him that lately I've felt that the only reason that he's still talkin to me is just so that he can come back to me if things don't work out with anyone else.He said "that's not it at all. I talk to u because I still like you" and I was like "ok..." and he said "that's the truth." So could u please PLEASE help me out here?
Sometimes I think that he still likes me and then other times I think he just likes the attention.I'm not sure! Guys are confusing!!But how can u break up with someone and then talk to them constantly after that, and not still love them or have feelings for them and not want to be with them still? you know? HELP!!!
I think he likes having you around in case things don't work out for him with other girls.
All this activity on the net shows that he is seeking other companionship. Yet, at the same time, he is talking nicely to you.
Ask him to the dance and see what happens.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com