Does she want more than flirting?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Do you think she's ready for the next level?
There's this girl at work that flirts with me all the time. She seems to be exhibiting all the flirting and body language signs. I've been flirting back. We usually go to lunch with a group from work and we sit next to each other. I started by brushing my arm against her leg but recently I've been resting my arm on her leg for most of the lunch hour. She never moves away or pushes my arm away but she doesn't put her hand on mine, maybe giving me a sign.
We joke a lot at work but I'm just not sure if it's time to go to the next level? I was burned once before when the situation was very similar and the girl said all the flirting and touching really didn't mean anything. Do you think she would give me some kind of sign to let me know she's really interested or do you think she wants me to do all the initiating?
It's nearly impossible to know if someone is really ready to move on to something more serious without trying :) Some people love to flirt, some people flirt but do intend to do more. And really there is often no difference at all between the two.
So since everything you've done so far is with the group, I'd start trying some more one on one activities. Nothing too serious, take it slow. Find a fun movie you know she'd really want to see, and mention you wanted to see it on the coming weekend. See if she'll go along as a friend. If you keep it casual, you should be able to find out if she's willing to do things just with you without it becoming a big, stressful deal. If she says no, you can back off without it being an issue. But if she says yes, you can see how she behaves when it's just you and her.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com