Is he scared to be with me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Ok, here's the situation.I met this guy about 3 years ago. I was 15. He was 18. Both fairly young and immature.Well, I was at least.Now I am almost 18 and he is going on 21.We met through our friends. Well, I got to know him a little better. Snook out of the house to see him and lied about where I was going when I went to see him.Then I finally had my mom meet him. He ended up living with me for about 6 months. He took my virginity.I was introduced to his family after he moved out of my house. I went on a family vacation with him.I spent at least 3 days a week with him. Then his ex-girlfriend called, they hooked back up, and were going to get married. He broke it off with her.. We started hanging ou again...It was about the 2nd year we knew eachother. We had sex almost every time we saw eachother. He drove an hour to see me. And I was soo happy to be seeing and hanging out with him again. He bought me gifts and dinner and told me he thought he was falling in love. I never said anything.Well,things got worse with his family and he worked late hours and I was at school when he didnt work, so we didnt get to see eachother alot.He moved out of his parents house and moved in with his uncle- this was about sometime in January..He drove and hour nd a half to see me every weekend that he wasnt busy-which was practically every weekend. Then he and his uncle started not getting along and he just rectently moved to Wisconsin about a month ago. Now we live 800 miles away from eachother and we talke every day. He was supposed to come see me last weekend and he didnt. I got angry and he told me he was sorry he had bills to pay and could get new plates for his truck.And hes not sure when he'll be able to come back down and see me.But we havent talked at all in the last week. But he always tells me I am worth it to him and it makes him mad when I say he doesnt care.He says he cares about me alot he just cant deal with his family and thats why he isnt here now.But he says he misses me and he will come see me one weekend and that I do mean it to him and Im worth it.And he says I am not a waste of his gas,money or time.And I'd never be just some quick stop. But he does think I should step up my game-as in sex a little bit and make it a bit more kinkier.Ive always had this weird connection with him,and in my heart I feel that he really does like me and want to be with me and care about me,but why does he act sometimes like he doesnt?Is he just trying to show off in from of the guys and not be all mushy?Or what?Ive just always felt something special like I have to be with him-even when I have dated other men,So, I dont know if this is enough info but I am having a hard time reading this guy...Does he really mean the things hes saying and is scared to be in a real relationship me or am I just wasting my time hoping?
He should quit his job in Wisconsin and move back to your town.
That is the source of the problem. Even if his family is around, he doesn't have to see them if there are troubles.
As long as things stay the way they are you and he are going to grow farther and farther apart. So try real hard to get him to move back.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com