We text about sex but I want a relationship
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
How do i know if he likes me enough to go out wid me? We text each other everyday bout havin sex but i want to have a relationship with him. We havent had sex yet, we jus kissed but im realy fallin for him.
I know sex can be fun. And talking about sex can be fun. But if you really LIKE him, it's important to work on you guy being great FRIENDS before you leap into sex. Otherwise, if you just jump into sex, he could very easily then just leap along to someone else for sex (once the 'thrill of the chase' is gone) and there you're left wishing you guys had stayed together for longer.
The reason you are friends first is NOT to prolong that chase or to be hard to get. It is to build up a friendship level - so that you stay together longer because you are together because you LIKE each other and not just for the sex. Yes, sex is a fun thing. But it's not the ONLY thing and relationships in which it IS the only thing, the relationships tend to crumble really quickly.
So in any case, I would expand your texting and your talking to include many other subjects. Get to know what he's interested in! Share with him what you're interested in. Talk like friends would. Go out and do things together. The closer you become, the more likely he'll stay around past that intial "real contact" or two.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com