What should I do?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I don't usually do things like this but I figured I would give it a try. My situation is that I am still in love with my ex. We were only together for 3 months but we knew each other for almost a year before we went out. I believe in getting to know the person before jumping into a relationship. I have been hurt in the past so when I first meet a guy I am very careful not to let my guard down. During those 3 months I was happier than I have ever been. I just have a hard time showing my feelings. We never really had any problems during our relationship, we just didn't see each other as often as he wanted to. So after the 3 months he decided to break it off. He never really gave me a reason other than he wished we couldv'e spent more time together and that he thought we were too busy to be together. If I had known that he felt that way I would have changed my schedule around and made more time. But I didn't know until that night that he broke up with me. By then I felt as if it was too late to try to work things out. I was very heart broken but I went into denial. I acted as if it didn't bother me, but it really did deep down inside. Months went by and I tried to move on and talk to other guys, but it just wasn't working out. All I could think about was my ex. It has been 7 months now since we broke up and I can't stop thinking about him. I have talked to him a couple times recently and he knows how I feel about him. He is dating a girl right now. But he has told a friend of mine that he still misses me. He hasn't said anything to me about it though. I am not sure what to think. I don't want to bug him to death nor do I want him to label me as "the psyco ex-girlfriend." There is so much I want to tell him that I was holding back when we were together. I know now what it means when someone says, "You don't know what you have until you have lost it." I have learned so much in the last 7 months, and I know if I had a second chance we would be able to make things work. Can you give me any advice in this situation? Is it wrong to try and win him back when he is in another relationship? Should I be patient or just give up? Thank you!
Try writing him a very long letter explaining what you said above and more.
Tell him that you are not trying to break up his relationship, but want him to know that you would like a second chance if something happens.
Ask his permission to call him once a month just to see how he is doing. Tell him you would keep the call short 15-20 mins.
Meanwhile keep the door open to the possibility of a new romance. The odds of your ex coming back are not the greatest.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com