A Total Chaotic Friend/Love Dilemma!!
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
A Very Brief History Of the Situation. About A year ago, I dated my crushes room mate. When I met the "Crush" me and her hit it off stronger than any first impression thing I have ever been through. After months of us dating other people and still talking on the phone for hours on in, we turned a little bit intimate. "Kissing" Which as silly as that sounds I am aware, it made my heart stop, lost my breathe, and went light headed. (( Yes, this sounds soo middle school)) The thing was it was mutual feeling. I have been formerly engaged an year and a half ago, but Oh my God, this blows my mind. It was just a kiss? Holding hands, and I turn into a kid..? Today, she makes the comment to me pretty much be friending me, even after telling my room mate she was crazy about me.. That doesn't make sense. On top of that, I am soo convident, almost cocky, that she is the girl for me and no one else matters. Here is where the questions come into play.
(A) Would this be considered love, or total infactuation?
(B) What would be a possiblity of why she wants to be friends again?
(C) How long should maybe I wait?
It sounds like mostly infatuatiion but with love mixed in.
You've known her long enough to have loving feelings for her.
She may be afraid of your passion and the quickness of it. Try to play it a little slower and give things a month to settle down before asking her out (unless you already go out on casual dates already).
Definitely don't let this die from inattention or neglect.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com