i love him...but im jealous
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
my bf and i been together for 6 months...we enjoy each others company despite our cultural differences..i dated guys before but this one is realy different..we have our ups and downs..and try to talk about it..work things out,he doesnt get mad he has the longest patience in the world BUT when it comes to my jealousy he get so mad easily..esp.if i accuse him..(i dnt really mean it though:)but i cant help it...things are playing in my min if esp if i call him and he cant pick it up or he wud be home late from work...he alwys expalin it to me why he is late or y he miss the call..and i feel gud abt it..again and again i do it,he get so mad and try to end the rlthsp cz for him its not gonna work,if i dnt trust him..but believe I DO..its jst dat i dnt know y im like dis..but i love him so much dat im willing to do evrything..again we fight same reason abd den we get back togeder again..but just recently we have arguments..and den yesterday he told me dats it..dats da end..i was hurt.and i was trying to ask him for a chance coz its just a small fights yeah i got jealous but its not like im screaming or wat,.but he always took it seriously...anyway he's really decided to end it,i was crying and i can see its hurts him too..so i was trying da best dat i cud to convince him to move on and fix our problem..but he said NO..so finally i give up asking a chance..i kiss him and hug him and tell him to take care and dat i love him and i was sorry...dat im gonna miss him..he said him too..its a nice breakup..and i was about to leave but i ask him once again if how abt he wud give himself somtime to think coz i guess i deserve another chance...coz im not a bad person..in fact hes past gf cheat and leave him..and im the only one who really loved him except of my jealousy issues dat makes him upset coz dat da only reason why we fight..nwei i look at hi eyes but he cant look at me..and den finally he told me .."ok give me time to think."in 2 weeks...and den were gonna talk...even its hurt i said YES.i accept the deal..he leave..now im so confuse and im scared after 2 weeks about his decisions:
Jealousy can ruin a relationship real fast.
The reason is that trust is one of the elemental aspects of a good relationship. If you don't have trust, the relationship is like a two legged chair... it will fall.
Practice getting over jealousy by fighting against it like it was an enemy... which it is. Whenever jealousy appears, tell it to go away that things are fine. Do this 100 times and the jealous feelings will give up and go away.
To find more about trust, see the following website:
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com