He loves me, he loves me not...
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Help! I've been with my husband for 6 years now and we fight almost everyday. I'm over jealous and he is not affectionate or likes talk dealing with any emotions. When I met him, he was different. Very affectionate and we always talked about everything. When I met him he worked as a 'grocery store clerk' and I was working at an import company making 40,000.00/year. He is younger than me and although many people would say he was no where close to my 'category' I never treated him as such, I treated him as the person I was falling in love with and gave it my all.
Now I'm on dissability with a permanent illness and he is the one working a very good job but he treats me as though i'm nothing. He's put me down with my looks, the way I dress and my cooking.
I don't know if my jealousy ruined us or if this is the real him. He did mention that he was a big playboy in the past and treated his ex horrible.
He claims that he does love me and that if he didn't he would of left me a long time ago than to deal with my jealousy.
I should mention that we have a 2 y/o boy and he has thrown in my face in the middle of an argument that the majority of the reason he was with me was because of our son. After the argument was over I asked him about it and he said he was just upset.
I've asked him if he wants a divorce and his freedom and he assures me he doesn't. But again, he is very cold hearted, not affectionate. Not supportive of my illness or my emotional distress. I don't know if I caused it or if he was just like this and thats, that. I'm really confused. Our bedroom life is the only thing that we both still have great chemistry with....we both resent eachother for different reasons.
I see my issues, he doesn't see his....please help with advice....I hope this isn't an 8 page novel...sorry.
You two need professional counseling.
You are having trouble with two of the most important aspects of a good relationship... trust and affection. Your communication doesn't seem to be very good either.
So my advice is to get counseling as soon as possible.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com