Weaving a tangled web
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I'm 18 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. We've always had a very intense relationship and I was always so deeply in love with him. However, about 6 weeks ago, I started to find myself feeling trapped by our constant companionship. I consulted friends, family...everyone I knew! Everyone told me to break it off with him and personally, I agreed. The first time I tried to break it off with him, he convinced me to 'take a break'...this lasted about 5 days. About a week later, I was very straight forward and told him I wanted to break up. He lost it. He cried so hard and told me he couldn't be without me. That he'd never make it. I am a sucker for his tears and I found myself begging him to take me back. In total, this scenario has happened 3-4 times. I know for sure that I want this relationship to end, I just can't bear to hurt him, although I realize that what I am doing is only making it worse. However, I have only complicated things more. About 2 weeks ago, I told my friends and family that the relationship was over (for I honestly believed for that time that it was). I have been too ashamed to explain the situation and I have also begun dating a guy I really like. I am now caught in a tangled web of lies to everyone I know. The guy I am dating believes I am single, my friends and family know I'm dating this other man, but my boyfriend thinks we are still together. Help me! I want to fix this all without hurting too many people.
Your boyfriend is using drama to keep you.
Tell him once and for all that you are done with him and have a new b/f. Do this gently, of course.
Then tell your family and friends that you broke up finally with your ex and that you have a new b/f. They should all be happy for you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com