Like Nothing Before(Why Me?)
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've been knowing this young man for a very long time. I'm 16 and he
is 20. Basically, I feel that he cares for me but he is confusing so
very badly. When we talk he is always smiling and giving me advice. He
always indirectly asks me if I have a boyfriend trying to see if I'm
available I guess. Because I felt that I was ready and not because he
pressured me, we had sex twice. Therefore, we an be physical with each other
but it's so very hard to communicate because there is such a strong
vibe that we can't help but to laugh and look away while trying to have
deep conversations. What I find so funny is that he'll make up the
craziest things just to make conversation. I often catch him staring at me
and licking his lips. When I look at him sometimes he says: "Why are you
looking at me, look at (Michael, or whoever), he's your boyfriend isn't
he"? I think what the problem is, is that he cares for me but he
doesn't think that I'm serious about it. The reason I say that is because
he's always telling me that I need to stop playing so much and become
more serious. Recently I found out that he had been talking to a boy that
goes to my school about me named E*. And E* tells him stuff about
me and the boy I like, D* tells me later about everything that E*
told him about me. I also said somethings to D*'s mom and she went
back and told him and he came back and told me. That made me think that
he talks to his mom about me. I think that he wants me but is a little
worried by my age and goofiness. What do you think?
You are 16 and he is 20 but you seem a lot more mature than he does.
Try to cut through his goofiness and talk seriously with him. Don't let him laugh away serious talk.
Try to figure out what E* and D* are up to because that sounds important.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com