stay with 1yr. boyfriend or go with new guy...or go it alone?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I am 22 and have been dating a guy i met at college for a little over a year. For a long time i was ready to marry him. I was on top of the world in love early may, when he moved an hour away for a summer internship. As soon as he left, i pretty much didn't ever really miss him anymore. I don't know why, if i was suppressing my missing him cause it was too much or if i didn't really love him anymore...? THEN i met another guy, a friend at first--i have never gotten along better with someone (he is almost TOO MUCH like me for it to work...)
I am currently on a break with my boyfriend and he knows about the other guy--but not that we kissed before the break began.
We are supposed to talk about it in the fall (1.5 months, about)but he keeps talking to me and wanting clarity, sure that i am leading him on on purpose.
I am afraid that my current break-relationship "boyfriend" is the person i am supposed to be with and i am being stupid for some reason over the summer, because i never felt like i didn't love him when we were always together. We see each other every weekend during this summer, but we never talk a lot every day, 5 minutes, maybe, so i feel really emotionally detached.
I don't even know what I feel. I think i need time for ME but i have two guys that i love(d)(?) and the other one am very attracted to adn compatible with. I need to give them both answers and soon. Current boyfriend on a break needs clarity now. he really can't wait. I am afraid to lose him but I honestly don't know what would be the most fair thing to do.
My advice is to have a long, honest, trusting and caring talk with each of them, separately, and try to explain how you feel about the situation.
It won't be easy to do, but it will clarify things for everyone. It may just be that you need a break for yourself alone.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com