Confused and Hurt
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I started dating a guy this winter. One thing led to another and, before I knew it, we were forming quite the bond. Not wanting to get hurt, I did rarely called, emailed, or intiated contact - it was all him. This lasted 5 months, when suddenly he called it off saying that he did not want a serious relationship. This was shocking, since he seemed VERY into me. A few days ago, we talked about what happened - it has been 2 months since it ended. He said that he was developing feelings for me and becoming emotionally attached and did not want to be in a serious relationship, so he pulled out. What should I do? I miss him terribly and I am confused. Why, if everything is going GREAT, would he pull away so fast?
You didn't actively respond to him when you where dating.
You expected him to do all the calling, etc.
Naturally this made him feel nervous and he reacted by backing off from you.
If you want him back, you should start doing some of the contacting so that he knows you are into him too.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com