Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I started dating this new girl in april, so we were dating for about 3 months and we recenetly broke up. I understand 3 months is not a long time, but this is the first girl ive dated in a while that I became attached to rather quick. Everything seemed to be going great, we would never fight or really have any problems. So last week she decides she wants to break up. She said what we have all heard before, that she wanted some time.. and this due to family circumstances she is having (which she does have tough circumstances). I took it like a man and said okay, hope everything works out for you and I left. She contacted me a few days later asking to be friends and I replied that I had no problems with that. She came over and we hung out as friends with no intimacy what so ever besides some cuddling. I talked to her some more and again she just kept saying she needed time to get some things straight and she wasnt sure if she was interested in dating again, BUT that she did still like me as more then just a friend. So I let her cool off some more and didnt call her for a few more days, then I did the flower thing and had them delivered with a cute little message "just because..." She told me to come by and see her, so i did, but still I couldnt get that kiss i wanted just a hug... So anyway I ran into her today actually at the local gym and we talked for a bit. I mentioned us possibly hanging out again soon just trying to play it cool and she replied with kind of a not sure yes... so real calm i just said that I think im giving up on her and she just was kinda like not sure what to say. so then after that I left and that is where we are at this point. With that said all I really want to know is your opinion on this situation. Does it seem like shes still interested or should I just let her go? I do still like her and I truly believe our actual relationship had nothing to do with us breaking up. do i call her, do i answer her calls, ect ect. please give me as much info as possible lol. thanks I appreciate it!!!!
It's only been a week.
Give things time to develop. You are pushing her too hard right now.
When you see her simply ask her how she is doing and show that you care for her. Don't ask for dates or hanging out, she isn't ready for that yet.
Try to call her once a week just to see how she is doing. Be cheerful and don't discuss your relationship.
This thing may just need some time.
Good luck! George
-- from George
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