Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I know jealousy is a powerful emotion, but when is it a good idea to use it and when is it not? My bf broke up with me about a month ago now (I wrote in before) and now I just feel like we're playing mind games with eachother. I miss him, but I act like I dont, and people I've talked to feel like he's doing the same thing. I tell him about all these guys I hang around with and dont talk to him unless he initiates it and I even became close to his best friend, which is making him immensely angry (not to me, but his friend tells me all the things he says). In addition, he tells me every single time he goes to see this one girl, and he asks a couple of my friends if I talk about him. He's sending mixed signals- he says he doesnt want me back (last time I talked to him, about 2 weeks ago) but he acts really jealous...like he wants me back. Any ideas?
I am definitely against mind-games.
Truth/trust, loving/affection, and communications should be your goals if you are looking for a sound relationship.
If he is reacting in a jealous manner, it is probably just "leftover" jealousy from when you were together. Some emotions take longer than others to die out and jealousy is one of those.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com