How do I get closer to a long time friend without destroying several friendships years in the making?
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
I have been friends with a certain lady for a very long time. I recently returned to her area after several years, I had remained in contact with her. She is currently "unattached" and we got together recently for the first time in years. I find her more beautiful now than ever. At our meeting, there was a lot of eye contact, etc. But I don't read too much into that. I would like to move to something other than being "just friends". Another thing is, several members of her family also are friends with members of my family. A couple of her family members are also my friends. How can I slowly move into a more romantic direction? Should I at all? If it all ended in disaster, it might damage many years of friendship between several people.
First find out whether there is any long term attraction between the two of you.
As you are finding out, discuss your worries with this woman and agree that neither one of you want to destroy years of friendships in case things don't work out right.
Also, talk with each of your friends and express the same concern. That you would be devastated if you lost their friendship.
Finally, make darn sure you don't have a breakup that is unpleasant. This is something you two should be able to control.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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