Why don't I get the girls?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I just can't seem to understand women sometimes. I find it gallingly hard to get a gal to even notice me beyond 'friend' material. I'm nice to any girl i meet, even if i don't particulaly fancy her. Im polite, i NEVER cuss or at least in front of a lady, i love engrossing conversations and I like to think tht i have a good ammount of social etiquette. I work out often to keep fit and NO, I DON'T have a 'confidence' problem, I do stand up comedy at a local diner on a regular basis. But yet somehow, all the girls want is tht hunk across the hall with those big pecs and biceps, who calls all his girlfriends and ex's his "bitches" with a seemingly 'bad boy' attitude. I hold open doors for them and what do I get, nothing, not even a thank you. I compliment them even if I know they're fishing for it, yet no one even looks past me more then once. I drive them back home from a party after they get wasted and i never try or even think of taking advantage of them, but all they see is that hunk with the leather jacket. I asked a few girls out once, all said they would call but none ever did. I try my best to excel in everything i do from studies to daily things yet they all seem meaningless. Are nice guys doomed to finnish last?? Maybe I should be more like the jerks, I know it's shallow thinking but I feel sometimes like a ghost.
I don't have a good answer for you.
You seem to be a model guy who would be attractive to most women. Have you asked enough of them out to know that you are having trouble?
Or are you, for some reason, asking out girls who are really attracted to macho men? Look around for girls who find you amusing, that shouldn't be too hard since you do comedy.
Ask your friends if you are doing something wrong... perhaps they can guess.
Meanwhile just keep plugging away and you will find someone.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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