Jealousy is making me crazy
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have been going out with my girl for over a year now and she is perfect. I totally trust her and everything has been great with us except one thing. I have this problem where the tiniest mention of her past relationships gets me imagining the things she has done with those other guys. Once I start thinking about it it's really hard to stop and will completely ruin my day. I will get angry and resentful and not treat my wonderful lady the way she deserves. The very thought of her doing anything with someone else in the past makes me feel like its happening right now.
I'll get the images in my head and torture myself with what happened years ago. I know she would never cheat on me, I'm not jealous or insecure about anything in her life now. Its just the thought that she ever had special or intimate experiences with past boyfriends that gets me so upset. As if she was supposed to do nothing her whole life until she met me so that we could have all those experiences together and no one else. How can I deal with this? What should i do? Please give me some advice...
First acknowledge that your behavior/attitude may end up losing this perfect woman. Consider seeking professional counselling to help.
Whenever a jealous thought enters your mind tell it immediately to go away and leave you alone because your girlfriend loves you and it doesn't matter what happened in the past which is only history.
After doing this about 100 times, the jealousy should give up trying to bother you and go away. Make sure that nothing else takes its place.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com