Does She Or Doesn't She?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My gf dumped me after 8 months because apparently I was like her mother and acted like her. I was starting to turn the corner and not be like her when she shut the door in my face. She started seeing somebody else the week before we broke up. I saw them together (that's how I found out) and they didn't seem to have that connection. I wrote her a three page letter apologizing for what I did and we talked yesterday about our issues. After she read the letter she started crying in front of me. When she went back home she looked really pissed off and then this morning she called me in tears saying that she cried all last night thinking about the letter I wrote and she really sounded distraught. She couldn't go to work and they sent her home because she looked like hell. We agreed to get together for a coffee tomorrow and discuss things. I asked her if there was any possiblity of a future for us and she said yeah there is and then i asked do u still love me a little and she said yeah there is a small part of me that loves you. I also signed a contract stating that I wouldn't do what I did before. I questioned it and asked her if it was real and she said yeah I don't do or say things I don't mean. She also told me that we was going to need about three months to get herself back together and then she would decide if we we're going to go back out even though she says that there is a good chance we will go back out. Also, I asked her if she wanted back any of the stuff I gave her because we gave each other's stuff back when we broke up. She said yeah I would like to have the teddy bear back that you gave me for Valentine's Day. She also told me that if I improve enough she's going to give me back the ring and necklace she gave me. All indications are that she wants me back but then at the same time I'm getting alot of mixed signals. My question is how can I tell if she does truly want me back or is she just playing head games with me? What do I look for?
My advice is to drop the thought of head games.
If you really want her back, then take her at her word. After all, she wouldn't cry all night as a head game. Besides if you imagine she is playing head games then your attitude will be detected and she won't want to be with you.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com