I cheated on my boyfriend he knows but we dont have sex anymore could he be cheating on me?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi my name is L* I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 yrs I cheated on him twice with two different guys he found out and we broke up for like a week and half then we got back together but ever since he found out I had cheated he's not really the same anymore and its been almost 9 months or so since I cheated on him but he like doesn't show affection towards me we never really have sex except for maybe when he feels like it. which is like maybe once every 2or3 months but when we first met he always wanted to have sex maybe even 2 times a day. I live with him at his parents house so we sleep in the same bed every night and sometimes I catch him on the computer looking on web sights like adultfriend finder, and amateur match I went to the sight one time and I guess he forgot to sign out of his profile and he is searching for women in our area to have sex with or to hook up with and when I seen that I was really hurt I mentioned it to him but I only said I know your looking at naked women on the web he knew I was pissed so he said sorry and he wasnt gonna do it anymore but when he gets a chance to go on the computer like when I go to the store when I get home and come in our room he quickly logged of the internet and I ask him what where you doing he says nothing just checking his e mail. So I ask him why did you log of the internet that fast when I walk in the door he just says I wasnt. So I go on the computer and look under history and theres the web sights he goes on so then I start snapping at him asking why he lied to me that he was just checking emails then he tells me "why Im a guy Im curious I was just looking why I cant?" SO when he says that I dont say anything cause I feel like I dont have the right to because I cheated on him and what ever he does would just be pay back and I wouldnt be able to do or say anything about it cause i deserve it.
But anyway I'm sorry this letter is so long but i really need some advice. thank you
You two should see a professional counsellor.
There is a lot of tension that needs to be dealt with.
His behavior is not a good pattern for a good relationship.
If you can't afford counselling, get away together and spend long amounts of time communicating-- trying to rebuild the trust and affection you once had.
It is a good sign that you have stayed together this long.
Good luck! George
p.s. there is nothing to indicate he is cheating on you.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com