I am shy but don't know what to do or say....
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
This may be a bit long to describe becuase I want to give details to better explain everything. There is a girl that I have known for about 5 months now. We had only spent a little amount of time around each other about once a week with other mutual friends. Then about a week ago I asked her out on a date. On the first night we went out to dinner and she said she wanted to see a movie afterward. After the movie we went to her place and had ice cream and talked for about 2 to 3 hours. The date lasted about 6 hours. During the date I noticed her looking at me a lot and smiling, she also towards the end of the date I was washing my hands in her kitchen sink before I left when she came over to me and put soap on her hands and then she grabbed my hands with hers and rubbed her hands in to mine... smiling and looking at me. Then she bumped me out of the way. The next day was similar. We spent another 6 or 7 hours just talking about going for a walk around her neighborhood. Before I left she was washing her hands in the kitchen and I went and put soap on my hands and did the same thing she did to me the previous night. Again the evening went by and she would smile and me and tickle occasionally. On another night two days later we spent another 6 or 7 hours together just talking. Again I notice her looking and smiling at me a lot. And everytime I see her and or leave from her place she gives me a hug. Also, when her and I talked on the third night she told me she did not like to kiss someone to soon because she said it makes things different in the friendship/relationship. I am unsure why she would tell me this.... does she want me to kiss or is she just saying it becuase she really means it. I know I am getting very good vibes from her. She called me when she said she would one night... which is a very good thing. But i guess my question is should I do or say something about how I am feeling about her. I would love to hold her hand and or kiss her. If she is not ready to kiss I can understand and respect that. I just don't want to sit in limbo not knowing what to do and have her lose interest becuase I didn't make a move. If there is any good advice as to what I should say or do next to see where things might go I would greatly appreciate it. I know this was long explanation. And thank you for enuring it. I am just really unfamiliar with this area of dating and I am unsure of what to do, and also shy. Thank you for your time and advice.
The time is rip now for you to make some moves.
Or, you could just talk with her about how you are feelings and tell her you are ready to kiss her. She definitely is showing interest in you and giving you all kind of signals that things are going well.
Try not to use shyness as an excuse... everyone is shy about something. The idea is to overcome the shyness and it will disappear.
Tell her you like her a lot and want to hold hands and kiss. Be sure to give her a big hug whenever you greet her.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com